How to Know You Are Enough
Do you ever feel like you’re the odd one out? Like your friends seem to get more attention when you all go out and you are left holding their clutches?
Too often, there are people just like you who feel like “the ugly duckling” of the group. You may think your hair does not shine as bright or your waist is not snatched enough, but everything is wonderful just the way they are.
Being around a friend or a group of friends that make you feel like this can have a lasting effect on one’s individual psyche.
You may believe that you are not a bright star, that you were meant to stay in the background, that you may be undeserving of any kind of real love — platonic or intimate.
The 'Ugly Friend' in Media
This notion that there is always an ugly friend in the group is sickening; for example, the 2015 movie D.U.F.F. that stands for “Designated Ugly Fat Friend” gives everyone an inside look into what is like feeling left out, used, and alone.
We all remember the ridicule that Khloe Kardashian would receive from viewers and sly comments her family would make about her weight. Having family who would say hurtful things or make you feel left out would make anyone anxious to become a part of the group again.
You may even be used as a joke to those around you who may feel as though you are less than.
Some would say Michelle Williams from the group Destiny’s Child, was considered the ugly friend. #PoorMichelle is used whenever she gets the “short end” of the stick. People screw their nose up in shame when they get labeled, “you’re the Michelle of our group.”
Know Your Worth
Even as we grow older and people start to flock towards you because you’ve developed more, we may still feel as though we were the same person we were before and not who we are at the moment.
Feeling left out is never easy. You have to know that you are enough and that your skin is the best skin to be in.
Look at your body and pick one body part that you love and say wonderful things about it. Next, pick a trait that you absolutely adore that showcases how strong you are as a person. Now, look in the mirror and repeat, “I Am Enough.”
You are enough for yourself, the people around and anyone you deem is worthy enough of stepping up to you.
If you have friends that use you, plant your feet on the ground and hold your head up high no matter how much it hurts if they drop off one by one.
Those who leave because of your new-found freedom in loving who you are, are not worthy enough to be called your friends.
In order to move forward, you have to know in your heart that you are loved and that you are worthy enough of being comfortable in your skin.
There is no one else on this planet like you.
